I've struggled with sharing this podcast interview with you. I did it a few weeks ago. When I did the interview, I knew that I was on to something. Mom's need to hear what I have to say about parenting blended families, teens, adoption, and taking care of yourself.
Being super vulnerable, the reason I did not want to share, is the fact that our family has been dealing with mental health struggles, my own health struggles as well as all the work that goes into blending families. Stewart and I just got married just over two years ago. We have become a blended family of four teen boys, three grown children and also added two adopted children joining us through kinship foster care and adoption. We have been through a lot! On top of that, I have been dealing with chronic health issues for nearly a decade. I have finally come to the conclusion that my breast implants have been a factor in my illness and inability to heal. Despite doing much physical, emotional, and spiritual healing, my body just can no longer fight against itself. I see a surgeon tomorrow to explant. This is a whole other blog but I wanted to share since it is a huge factor in me trying to hold my head above water. I often feel as though I am drowning.
That being said, my husband and I are no experts. We are not claiming to be. However, I would like to share with you what has worked for me. In this podcast I share much of my self care routine intertwined with healthy boundaries all while parenting 6 kids full time. I sure hope it helps even one person to see that we do not have to be "perfect parents" or "perfect role models" in order to share what has and is working for us. The great thing is that you can listen and determine what may or may not help you and your family. You can take what tools we have and use some while not using others.
The bottom line is that no matter what your struggles are right now, the chances are very high that someone else is also going through something similar. I read a quote yesterday that I loved,
"One day you'll tell your story of how you've overcome what you're going through now, and it will become part of someone else's survival guide."
I am not aware of who is the author of that quote but feel it is perfectly stated. Whatever you may be going through, it is our job to keep growing, keep moving, keep healing until our story is one that can help heal someone else's story.
So, here goes. In the midst of many of my own struggles I would like to shine a light for some of you out there going through the darkness of parenting, blending families, raising teen and adopted children.
We are made to shine. God needs us to heal, grow and shine our lights so that others can see their way out of their own darkness.
Also, one tip that I forgot to share is probably my #1 tip as a parent of teens. That is anyone over the age of 12 does his/her own damn laundry! That right there has literally lightened my own load, pun intended!
I love you dear friends. I hope you enjoy. Click here to hear the podcast interview on parenting teens and blended families by clicking here: The Family Brain Podcast
The Perfectly Imperfect Life